I was listening to this long-format interview with Jerry Colonna on the Tim Ferriss podcast recently. Tim Ferriss introduces Jerry as “the CEO and cofounder of Reboot.io, an executive coaching and leadership development firm dedicated to the notion that better humans make better leaders.”

In this interview, Jerry shared three powerful questions that he learned from his therapist (at minute 23:02 into the interview), which he asks himself and clients (and even his kids!). These caught my attention as quite profound, once you really think about the implications. These questions are readily recycled for any new frustrating social situation we find ourselves in.

I think these are so powerful that really, just one needs to be pondered at a time.

Question #1

What have you been saying that has not been heard?

Question #2

What are you not saying that needs to be said?

Question #3

What is being said that you are not hearing?

And, in the pattern of these three, viewing it from a therapeutic lens, I want to add a fourth…

Question #4

What are you hearing that is not actually being said?


I won’t taint these by offering my own interpretations. I think they may speak to each one of us in a personal way.


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